7 Attitudes Girls Need to Adopt

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1. "That's not my problem."
When I was in middle school, my dad took me to Game Stop, in the middle of my browsing, he abruptly storms out of the store and gets into his car. Perplexed, I go out to the car to find out that he was upset with me and that I was in trouble....again. But this time, I didn't even know what I had done wrong. Apparently, while we were in the store, some older boys were "checking me out", which upset my dad. So, instead of confronting the older boys checking out a little girl, who were indeed the problem, he confronted me and made me believe that I was the problem. He said there must be something about me that made them want to look at me in that manner, there must have been something I was wearing, or doing to make them do that. From then on there was instance after instance where I was made to believe that I was the problem when I really wasn't. Relate? In churches everywhere girls are told to change the way that they dress or else they will "cause their brothers to stumble." Oh, so WE are the reason why these boys have no self control??? Female Christian Hip Hop artist, Hillary Jane, had a beautiful opportunity to headline a tour with the times popular male CHH artists but she was taken off the tour because, "There will be late nights on tour together, and lot's of time spent between the sexes, oh and we don't want any assumptions or anything to really happen." So she has to miss out on her big moment and her break because you don't think the guys can handle it? Why is she considered the problem? Women have the tendency to take on other people's pain, insecurities and problems and live life as if THEY are the problem. We end up blaming ourselves, even in situations such as rape. We must begin to say "that's not my problem", and separate ourselves from the problems of others and understand that their issues are not our own and refuse to own them.

2. "That's not my name"
I would criiiiiiinge when someone would call me "sis" when they didn't even know me like that nor mean it. A girl talking behind your back but in church saying, "hey sis!" to the guy that only sees you as a prospect, not a human being and literally just wants to f*ck but when he addresses you he says, "hey sis, wussup." That's not my name. You don't mean it, therefore its fake, that makes me uncomfortable, just call me by my name. We need to understand that it is not "rude" to want to be addressed a certain way. Maybe you hate when your boss calls you "sweetie" or when that random man calls you "aye" lol. It is ok to correct whoever is speaking and refuse to be addressed as something that makes you uncomfortable or doesn't match who you truly are to them. So the next time someone calls you "baby" and they aint cha man....its ok to let them know, "that's not my name"...at least to you it isn't.

3. "I'm leaving."
This one is simple. I've found myself in TOO MANY bad situations because I ignored my gut feeling (the Holy Spirit) telling me that something aint right. No matter how nice the person seems or how perfect and calm the situation may be at the moment, if you feel in your gut that  something aint right, its ok to get out of that situation. No matter who calls you crazy or looks at you crazy, we gotta love ourselves enough to trust our instincts. Next time you don't like what's going on....it's ok to just leave.....I promise.

4. "No."
I can't even count on my hands how many times I've allowed someone to emotionally bully me into agreeing to do something that I didn't want to do. I was scared to say no in fear of their reaction, the end of a friendship or whatever the illogical fear in my head was. Girls need to learn to say no without fear, mean it and follow through with it. We need to understand that we have the power to disallow something in our life, even when we feel powerless. Next time you want to say no, actually say it, mean it from the depths of your soul, really mean it and stand by it. "No" doesn't mean convince me, nor does it mean keep trying or maybe later if you keep annoying me or until you scream at me and scare me into complying, no simply means.....no. & ITS OKAY TO SAY IT.

5. "I'll build my own door."
I would love for more girls to adopt this logic. If you keep knocking at an opportunity and getting ignored, disrespected, not taken seriously or whatever.....get the creativity and the strength to build your own damn door. Create your own opportunity, create your own lane. If someone won't help you or do it for you....it's ok and it is possible to do it yourself. I love how Blimes Brixton launched Peach House Records, a sort of safe haven for female recording artists or how Snow Tha Product began her career by making and sending her own merch, creating her music herself, releasing it herself, going on tour by herself, creating her own platform herself, promoting herself etc. More women should stop waiting on opportunities and begin creating them. We are creators by nature. Don't waste your energy beating someone else's door down. Save your energy and use it to build your own door with that same relentlessness and passion.

6. "I'm worth more than that....keep going."
Selling things online has almost ruined how we view value. Have you ever set a price on something you want to sell but then you see the "market value" is lower so you need to lower your price in order to sell it...oh and when you finally get a potential buyer and they try to get you to sell it cheaper and you're so scared to lose out on that buyer because omg what if no one else wants it, what if no one else is interested, ok I'll just sell it to them. Women need to stop doing this....in REAL life. If we truly know our worth, our value and what we deserve, then why are we so quick to sell ourselves short or negotiate a deal in fear that they won't see the value that we do? In relationships, business deals or work salaries....we constantly just take what we can get. We know that we deserve more but inside we don't feel worthy or that it is possible. Yeah, girls need to stop that.

7. "If I gotta be a b*tch imma be a bad one."
As Kehlani so eloquently put it! To sum everything up, girls historically have been told to be non confrontational, sweet, nice, easy going even at the expense of their own safety, happiness or beliefs. Out of fear of being labeled a b*tch, we have silenced our thoughts and feelings, gone along with things we don't feel comfortable with, stayed at dead end jobs, accepted offers we should have refused etc etc etc.... No matter what, someone is going to eventually view you as a b*tch if you're trying to make any significant impact in this world. Accept it and just make sure you're a bad one, standing for what you believe in, doing good wherever you go and leading this next generation of girls into power and not further into silence, shame or bondage.
 

Your Body As A Price.

A gripping, true narrative by the talented Jessie Reyez, recounting an experience she shares with many women in the industry. Not only do female artists deal with this, think of moments in your life where this world has asked you to somehow pay the price to success with your body instead of your work. Below is the short film that describes the incident as well as the original lyrics to the song with Jessie's own explanation of the lyrics in italics (courtesy of genius.com). Full music video is in the media section of this site!

[Chorus]
20 million dollars in a car
Girl, tie your hair up if you wanna be a star

(So much money and attainable dreams right beside you
You want them?
Tie your hair up and get ready to suck dick for your dreams

That’s what this guy said
Fuck this guy though)


Left, right, left, right, left, right, right, right
(Marching, left foot, right foot
Like soldiers or thoughtless drones
Lacking morality or consciousnessThe final “right right” is homage to Stanley Kubrick’s “A Clockwork Orange” – a film about a dystopian society where shit is senseless and dark. My entire life I dreamed of a moment like this , disney-like, where someone in power would hear me sing and be willing to help. This night flipped my perception on it’s head -like Kubrick’s depiction of morality in Clockwork. Will IDAP, the wicked producer of the song, put me onto a lot of films while we were working together. They also influenced the energy we were playing with- this one in particular.)


30 million people want a shot
How much would it take for you to spread those legs apart?
Left, right, left, right, left, right, right, right

[Verse 1]
Oh I'm the gatekeeper
Spread your legs
Open up
You could be famous

(It’s so hard to get your foot in the door in the music industry
Some people take advantage of being on the inside and you being on the outside
You’re so hungry and ready to work and chase your dreams
They see this and if you have something they want- they’ll taunt you and ask for an exchange
Alot of times – they’ll ask for your body)


If you come up anywhere else, I'll erase you
(“If you don’t take the opportunity I’m handing you and you try to find one somewhere else, I’ll black ball you from the industry and make sure no one else is willing to fuck with you”)


Drink up bitch we got champagne by the cases
Don't you know? Don't you know?
We are the gatekeepers
Spread your legs
Open up
You could be famous
You know we're holding the dreams that you're chasing
You know you're supposed to get drunk and get naked
(Particularly as women in the industry – you get objectified often.
For example, if you come to a late night session and you’re not a close friend or a fellow artist, you will be depicted as a hoe -even if you’re not. You walk in and more often than not, you are viewed as delivered pussy.
If that’s what you want to be- that’s cool- but coming from a woman that isn’t trying to be that- it sucks.
You’re expected to get drunk
You’re expected to be easy
Might sound offensive but this is just real shit)


[Verse 2]
Oh I'm the gatekeeper
Spread your legs
Open up
You could be famous
Wait 'til 5 years down the road and you're failing
(Taunting me
Saying that I’m throwing away my chance and that I won’t reach my goals if I don’t take advantage of the shot that he’s giving me. Saying that when I’m older I’ll look back on the night where I ruined my chances of success.)


Keep fucking these regular dudes that are nameless
(Saying that I should be using my pussy properly and fucking strategically)

Don't you know? Don't you know?
That we are the gatekeepers
Spread your legs
Open up
You could be famous
Girl, on your knees
Don't you know what your place is?
(He’s saying “Submit. You’re less than. How could you think you have worth in this situation or a right to say no.”)
Got gold on my dick, girl, don't you wanna taste it?
(He’s accomplished and he’s living his dreams. He’s saying that his dick is the closest thing I can taste to success and my ticket to my goals is submitting.
Ps. fuck this guy)

School is ALWAYS in Session.

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I work as a social services coordinator in a low income apartment complex in Houston....yesterday as I was solo dolo doing my thing walking around putting flyers on doors, I look back and there were 3 little girls following me, a few moments later I had about 8 girls following me and wanting to help and know why I was doing what I was doing. I can't help but to wonder, how will their early life memory of walking around the neighborhood with me telling people that we have free food for those in need, affect them and how they treat people and serve their community in adulthood?

We hung out until that evenings hurricane relief event. I turned on the radio and had hula hoop contests with them and allowed them to play make believe and play tag for hours. I had tons of cute little girls, with cute braids and dresses playing in the community center while a Tupac mix blasted over the radio (What a clear image of my personality and the diva demeanor message haha anyways...) I began grabbing chairs and taking them outside to set up for the event, girls as young as 3 were all grabbing chairs too and helping to set up while all the boys rode bikes and played at the playground. I said, "isn't it funny that every week the girls are the ones doing the tough work and helping out", the leader of the relief team said, "Well don't you think it's a reflection of the leadership they see here every day...they're following you." 

School is always in session! This next generation of girls are watching and following YOU! When you finish school, start your own business, help someone in need, be the opposite of what their environment and the media shows, stand up for what you believe in, throw support instead of shade, or even when you live your life regularly......THEY SEE IT and they are silently studying and following. Be encouraged, look back and realize the sweet faces following your example! What do you want our future to look like? Begin within....

Not Concerned With LOOKING Good. Concerned With DOING Good.

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On Instagram, you can classify yourself as a "public figure" and become famous and gain clout off of being pretty and showing off your body and clothing. Easy work. In our world of community work and activism, you can also become famous and gain clout off of your image and what it LOOKS like you're doing. Easy work. 

What is insanely more difficult is actually seeing results and doing good for the people. Its easy to make things look good on paper. "We provide educational enrichment to low income youth 5 days a week, provide free nutritional meals and innovative case management for the family." couple that with bs statistics and sign in sheets and TAH-DAH you got all kinds of grants and money coming in from the government and probably bs recognition from the mayor & the city.

BUT what does it all mean if it looks good on paper but isn't truly what its cracked up to be in the streets? So what if your mission statement says you provide all this good if the lives in the community still look the same, its not doing any good but only making you look good. Isn't it a waste of money to give $20,000 to an organization that gives sub-par and surface level "help" to a community when there are people out here who truly care and will use that money to tear some sh*t up? I've noticed this far too often over the years and quite frankly, I am tired of b*tching, crying, complaining and talking about it. It's time for action. We have all the beauty, education, passion, connects and attitude to make sh*t happen for our communities. We are sick of people getting pats on the back for donating a bus load of school supplies when the kids are still sent to sub-par schools and not learning anything. surface. Its getting old to see representatives get praised for "ending illiteracy" in our communities by donating books to people who CANT READ and showing up once to take photos holding a book with our kids, wiping off their sweat, leaving and not thinking of them ever again. surface. Its so played to give away scholarships to kids to make your company look good but not truly care about their education or futures. WE are the change. We are the ones that will take those funds and actually do some REAL work and make REAL change with them. I know you have the ideas, I know you have the passion. Go to grants.gov often, hit up our girl Sandy to get assistance starting your own non-profit, writing grants or reinstating, collab with world changers in your city and brainstorm on what yall can do to get the ball rolling in whatever area you care about. Most of all just do something. We can be way more than pretty faces on instagram, they need our faces in the boardrooms, classrooms, community centers and in the streets. We can be way more than nice bodies, they need our bodies on the frontline fighting for our communities and the issues that grip our hearts. We can do way more than the bare minimum to LOOK LIKE we are doing good in this world...we can be passionate enough to actually DO GOOD in the world and change lives forever.

I Don't Give A Damn If Female Rappers Get "Famous"...

I’m not even trippin if women in the hip hop industry don’t get the same exposure or platform as the men do. Nope, because that’s not what I’m focused on. As long as the girls who need to see their image, see it and need to hear their voice, hear it...then I’m happy because it’s what I’ve been longing for and needing for so long.

I used to see the guys in the church goin HARDDDD. They would be serving and impacting the community in amazing ways, it was like fire, grit and passion was flowing through their veins and I loved it. Then I saw the girls they were telling me to hang out with who just wanted to go shopping, look cute at church and talk about changing the world but not going out and actively doing it. I didn’t want to model my life after the girls, I wanted to model my life after the guys. They were doin the real sh*t.

I didn’t have an older woman to guide me, lead me and give me an example as to how to live my life. The women I saw, weren’t doing what I knew God placed in MY heart. So, I thought I was just different. I figured it was just me that had the heart of a soldier and the demeanor of a diva. So, I would study the men and how they moved and imitate it. I would model my life after them but just make it more feminine. I saw how hard they went for the issues they cared about, so I went just as hard in the areas that meant something to me. I saw how they talked, moved, created and took over…. so, I did the same, but in my own way.

Name me one woman in the hip hop culture that I could have modeled my life after? Nope, not talking about suburban women who went on missions trips or pastors wives. Someone like me, who I could relate to. All the rappers/known urban missionaries & leaders were men, and the females only sung the hooks (talking about Christian hip hop at the time). There wasn’t a known woman with a full album. They were hidden. Yes, the guys can make a song about women or tell a woman’s story but it’s something more powerful and special when she is able to share it herself. I wanted and needed to see that. It was cool to listen to and follow the guys but it would have been way doper to have a woman in that place. At least ONE.

So yes, I want a girl to be able to stream a full album from a woman who has gone through the same things that she is going through. Yes, I want a girl to have a “big sister” to be inspired by, look up to and learn game from. Yes, I want a girl to be able to say “I can change my community too” because she sees another woman already doing it. No girl should have to look to a man to hear her story or see her passion being lived out. There are women out here who can take on that role, they just need to know that they can and it is possible. Is that woman you?

With that being said, I don't share female rappers so they can gain more fans and become famous mainstream. I share them so that another woman can finally discover her voice and have someone just like them to look up to. I share them so that just maybe a young girl can see a different image of a woman in hip hop....that she would see a symbol of truth, strength and pure talent, not just a shell of sexuality being exploited by the industry. I share them because they are dope as hell and undervalued. I share them to show the world that women do have a place in this culture and they too have a call to change this world.

Check out the media section to see these dope female emcees sharing their truths. Also check out the Diva Spotlight video series to see women making big moves out in their community and changing lives. More to come! The women are like hidden gems out here in the world, I’ll find them for you. Just remember, Diva Demeanor is where they all gather.

Out of Touch Doesn't Change Lives.

See, you view us through a 2-way mirror
Instead of fear us, come near us, come hear us.
Wish you would visit, but are you really welcome here?
Locked us in an experimental box, peace of mind is seldom here.

-KXNG CROOKED

A lot of unnecessary bs happens when out of touch people put their hands all in our sh*t. When the government regulates how you run a feeding program for your community. They make the rules and tell you exactly how they want you to do it, not even knowing one name or face they are effecting, let alone what works and what doesn't in that community. When elected officials donate books to children and write statistics like "We placed 3,000 books in the hands of inner-city children thus battling literacy issues in the city." not even realizing that the kids are just drawing in the books, throwing them around and otherwise....not reading them because oh......they can't read. The people in charge of making the programs and curriculum who have never shook hands or looked into the eyes of the people they are creating these programs for. Police patrolling a neighborhood that they are not familiar with, have no ties to and don't have one relationship with any of the residents. Out of touch doesn't change lives. It is the people on the inside and on the front line that make the impact. These are the people who have special insight that outsiders do not have. These are the people who are not serving at a distance, but are intimately connected to and sculpted for to reach these particular people. What is it that you have special insight on? Where are you on the inside? This is where you make you impact. Don't allow only outsiders to control and take care of what you are called to. Take ownership. Bottom line, if they're not hands on, they don't need their hands all in your sh*t. They do not need to be the decision makers, shot callers, policy makers and visionaries from afar. They don't know your people and your community like you do. You do it.

You have ENOUGH.

My ex would say things like, "If I had the money I would do this for you." and "If we were better off I would do that." but the ironic thing is, he already possessed everything he needed to do something nice for me, he just didn't believe he did. He had huge plans in his head that didn't match his wallet or position at the time. I would hear "I wish I could give you more" but my heart was saying, "I wish you would just give me what you have." Aint it funny that we do the same thing with our purpose? Divas, you ALREADY possess what you need to deliver but you trippin with yourself. "If I had more money I would give to the community." "If I had more followers, I would start to speak my mind and use my platform to bring social change." "If I had more help, I would start an organization that impacts my city." "If I was smarter and more powerful in my city, then I would put on huge shows and change the game." "If I was better off, I would do more for my kids." STOP. This world is hungry, malnourished and STARVING for what you're selfishly holding inside you. Here you are, right next to it, feeling its hunger but you won't give it what you know it needs. Don't believe the lie. We develop this complex that we have to be more or have more but the world needs what you have RIGHT NOW. Trust me, God aint gon arouse a great vision in you and fan the flames in your heart and not come through with the come through. Just give what you have and he will come through and make sure everything works out. Stop waiting for the perfect position and perfect opportunity to act. You are already enough and you already have enough.  New-age business coaches and social media gurus might tell you to perfect your business plan first, save money first, get a huge following first, get your brand and look together first....how about just go. You have the passion, you have the vision, just go. Gift it to the world without trying to make it perfect first. Take $20 and a few donations from friends and see what you can buy to give to the homeless. You don't need a brand, T-shirts, business plan and connects for that. Take that passion you have for the human trafficking industry and begin to make videos, tweets, blog posts and just share to your following. You don't need a verified blue check, 1.5 mil followers or a title to do that. Take whatever you have and just go. You may think you need more to give. I say, you already have enough.

My ex would say things like, "If I had the money I would do this for you." and "If we were better off I would do that." but the ironic thing is, he already possessed everything he needed to do something nice for me, he just didn't believe he did. He had huge plans in his head that didn't match his wallet or position at the time. I would hear "I wish I could give you more" but my heart was saying, "I wish you would just give me what you have." Aint it funny that we do the same thing with our purpose?

Divas, you ALREADY possess what you need to deliver but you trippin with yourself.
"If I had more money I would give to the community."
"If I had more followers, I would start to speak my mind and use my platform to bring social change."
"If I had more help, I would start an organization that impacts my city."
"If I was smarter and more powerful in my city, then I would put on huge shows and change the game."
"If I was better off, I would do more for my kids."
STOP.

This world is hungry, malnourished and STARVING for what you're selfishly holding inside you. Here you are, right next to it, feeling its hunger but you won't give it what you know it needs. Don't believe the lie. We develop this complex that we have to be more or have more but the world needs what you have RIGHT NOW.

Trust me, God aint gon arouse a great vision in you and fan the flames in your heart and not come through with the come through. Just give what you have and he will come through and make sure everything works out. Stop waiting for the perfect position and perfect opportunity to act. You are already enough and you already have enough. 

New-age business coaches and social media gurus might tell you to perfect your business plan first, save money first, get a huge following first, get your brand and look together first....how about just go. You have the passion, you have the vision, just go. Gift it to the world without trying to make it perfect first. Take $20 and a few donations from friends and see what you can buy to give to the homeless. You don't need a brand, T-shirts, business plan and connects for that. Take that passion you have for the human trafficking industry and begin to make videos, tweets, blog posts and just share to your following. You don't need a verified blue check, 1.5 mil followers or a title to do that. Take whatever you have and just go.

You may think you need more to give.
I say, you already have enough.

Women, We are Built for War.

Anyone with natural hair knows the struggle of wash day, so here I am being forced by thick hair, to sit under the dryer for 2 hours after detangling and twisting, for my Bantu knots to dry. To keep from completely losing my mind I grab a book that I put down months ago. The book is “Without Rival” by Lisa Bevere. Lisa recalled a story about a military officer who asked her did she know why we were losing the war (Afghanistan). She said no and he went on to say that we were losing the war because we could not get to the women of the culture. In order to win the war, they must win the culture. In Afghanistan, the male U.S. soldiers were unable to reach the Afghan women because of cultural barriers.

The U.S. decided to enlist a team of WOMEN to go in to war, not to do what the men do, but to do what the men were unable to.

While the men were in combat, the women were enlisted to impact and change the mindset of the Afghan women. (This was called Team Lioness if you want to do further research). Now I can go on for days about the government and war and the ulterior motives and bs that I see and feel BUT for the sake of this post I will just focus on the metaphor.

Man listen, if the U.S. military understands that women need to fight alongside the men in order to win the war…..we need to understand this in our everyday lives.

At our Diva session last night I asked, “What are some battles that our men are fighting on their own and not winning?” and then also, “How can we come alongside them to help them win this war?” The ladies came up with SPECTACULAR observations and solutions. Can you come up with your own? Really think about it. Women are built for war. We are here to fight. Not each other. But we are here to fight and shift the culture in special ways. Maybe there’s a ministry that men are running on their own but can’t seem to get breakthroughs in the community….can women play their part and help? Maybe you think that men struggle with identity and battle with the standards of this world…can you be a living example that you love them regardless of those standards? Or is it that you see men fighting injustices, child welfare issues, trying to mentor/teach youth, run an outreach, run for a political party, run a record label or street team, plan events, build programs or any mission they have to impact this world. If they are fighting, trying, striving and not getting the results they dream of and long for…how can women come alongside them and multiply their strengths? Divas don’t sit back and complain and cry about not having a place on the mission field. Divas rise up and fight. Divas don’t watch the world burn, they rise up and help put out the fire. Divas don’t allow the words “gentle”, “fragile”, “weak”, “girly”, “incompetent” or “powerless” to define them. Divas uncover their unique strength and use it to reach the people they are called to reach. Divas know that women are built for war and they are ready to enlist in the mission.

About 2 years ago, I created choreography to this song for a hip hop dance program I created (Diva Dance Academy) for young girls. At the time, V. Rose was one of the few prominent girls in the Christian Hip Hop scene with music that I could pull from (and I was ADAMANT about incorporating female artists). I chose the song because it had a good message that I could teach on weekly in addition to the dance, it was cute for kids and because it was dance-able. Nothing more, nothing less. It amazed me how this one song resonated with these young girls in such a major way, that in their small lives, they GOT IT. They began to walk different, talk different and live different. They began to understand who they are uniquely in this world and how to be confident in that. They began to ignore bullies, ignore their insecurities and ignore the messages that this world shoots our way to break us down. If you didn't know, even girls in elementary school fight the most violent battle in their hearts and minds and it would be a shame if we continue to dismiss their battle as "not a big deal".

They get bullied for being who they are. They hear and see conflicting messages of what a woman should be daily. They try and measure up to our standards, their friends standards, their teachers standards and fall into a deep comparison. They may have a void in their hearts that stems from missing a parental figure. They may battle with what love truly is. They may be insecure about their appearance. If we, as grown women, feel the pain from these same issues, how much more pain do these little girls feel, not even being emotionally mature enough to sort these emotions out? Think about that for a moment.

We not only have the responsibility to fight for our inner peace. We are enlisted to fight for them when they cannot fight for themselves. Can we be the example? Can we model to them what a woman of strength looks like? A woman that refuses to break or buckle under the weight of this worlds expectations? A woman that is relentless in her pursuit of the dream God entrusted her with. A woman who will not get derailed by haters and critics. A woman who succeeds using her talents, her mind, her skills and her vision instead of relying completely on looks, her boyfriend or husbands status or stepping on another woman to get there.

From the very beginning, the enemy whispers to us that we are not good enough, that we need to look different, dress different, come from a different family, be more like her, be less like ourselves. But being authentically us if where our true strength lies. How much longer will we listen to those lies that keep us in bondage AND our little sisters stuck too? I hope you hear my heart. God created all of us uniquely and placed in us something that is an answer to a problem in this world. We are all here to create something that would not exist if we didn't. We have power, we have strength, we have beauty and we each have something special to bring to this battle. Some of us rap, some sing, others dance. Some of us are great writers, organizers, counselors, or teachers. Some of of excel in sports, coaching, coding, designing and art. Some girls give and help like no other. We nurture, we protect, we give life and we design beautiful things. If we all come together we can take over the world, not for our own glory, but for the betterment of society. If we all do our part, we can make big changes. Understand your unique beauty and walk in your unique strength. Divas, stand right alongside the guys and multiply their strengths. They need us in the fight too. No one else can be a better YOU.