Hip Hop Affirmations: Sa-Roc "Forever"

"I ain’t get here overnight
I was in that mirror like 4-5 times a week, with my mala beads reciting affirmations like holy rites" - Sa-Roc "Forever"

When this bar exited her mouth, I felt her truth. Self love, acceptance, empowerment, confidence, and walking in your true purpose does not happen overnight. All of a sudden self love is becoming some sort of trend and most women are still not getting it. They will post empowering quotes and then not truly understand how to live them out daily. This music video is a beautiful illustration of who we truly are as women in this hip hop culture. I have quoted her lyrics from this song below for you to use as your own daily affirmations. Affirmations don't have to be lovey-dovey, basic or sound like the ones you hear from your favorite mediation gurus...they can be raw, gritty and drip with your own inner style and voice. So yes, allowing this goddess emcee to rap your affirmations over your life may work better than what you've been doing! Check it...

When I wake up, no makeup, half naked, I feel like I’m the shit
Pardon my language, but hang ups do not define the kid
No, I’m not flawless, I’m scarred up and I’m fine with it
My body art a laundry list of all of life’s unkindnesses.

In your natural state, you are whole, complete and beautiful. Your past mistakes do not define you nor take away from your value. Accept your scars and the wrongs done to you, but use them to grow even more beautifully.

Still got the scars from cutting my wrists when I thought that life was finished
Now they remind me what my lows look like now I know the sky’s the limit

Every scar, whether physical or emotional was meant by the enemy of your soul to break you forever, but you can use those scars to remind you of your lowest point and how you survived it.

When Roc go in, she too aggressive, that’s too masculine
And her content lil too obsessive, just relax a bit
She say she god, that’s narcissistic, just the facts of it
Nah, I Don’t really eff with female rappers, that shit sacrilege
Glad I learned early not to internalize every ink up
Daddy told me with every opinion there comes a sphincter
And they would rather see dem thots than popularize a thinker

People will critique, pull, push, slander and talk down on you and what you do, but realize that even though you are not who they want you to be, you are purposed, you have to keep pushing and doing you, never changing for the masses, and then you will reach your point of inner peace and true power.

Marrow composed of warriors so every verse became a vengeance
Went thru too much hell to not be fire, but they still feigning ignorance

There is a fighter in your blood, you, your ancestors and your GOD have been through way too much for you to consider yourself weak. You are a warrior, you are straight fire.

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"That’s right, we’ll call it self love. Discovered I was dope, and indulged like upscale drugs
And u could call me arrogant if that’s gon help love, but if you trying to knock me down, your demolitions failed, bruv" - Sa-Roc

  

The Wonder in all Women.

There is an underlying narrative sketched and weaved into this world's system. It's a story that proclaims that men are the strong and powerful ones and even the strongest and most powerful woman gets her true power and purpose from a man and his interest/love for her. Weak.

I loved in the 2017 Wonder Woman movie, how she was adamant in being the one to save the people and fight even when no one else thought to fight for them. I loved how she walked around like the hands and feet of Jesus, noticing, with deep compassion, every hurt and injustice in the world and being moved instantly to do something about it. I loved that image of a woman, because that is who we are all called to be. What I hated, was how her love interest took all her shine and purpose at the end. I thought she would power up and gain all her strength and drive from her love for the people and seeing the oppressed finally be set free......but no, they wrote the story so that she gained her power from the love she had for a man. The entire plot shifted and now it was no longer about a powerful woman saving the world and following her beliefs but it was now about a powerful woman who gained her power and purpose from a relationship and is driven by her love for one man.

In music, movies, books, poetry and any other form of story writing, the narrative is clear. Women, your power comes from being with the love of your life, having men find you attractive and your ability to please them. I believe that love is a beautiful aspect of life, and being with the love of your life is thrilling and fulfilling. However, I do not believe that it is the true source of your wonder or your power. Your true source comes from the love that God put in your heart for his people and the unique calling that he placed on your life. Operating from THAT is where your true power lies. That power is inside every woman if she would just tap into it.

We can gain a sense of wonder and power by pouring out our love onto our children and our boyfriends, love interests or husbands. But that is only a part of our power and wonder in love. We would be cheating ourselves and robbing this world if we do not tap into the deeper layer. Re-write the narrative. Do not allow this world, that hates God's plan and that hates God's purpose for the sexes, rob you of your superhero story. This world doesn't want to see men walking in their true strength and women walking beside them in their true strength. They want to see men terrified, confused, manipulative, power hungry and weak. They want to see women dependent, beat down, oppressed, silenced and exploited. They want men and women alike, to believe that their true source of power and strength comes from so many different external sources when it doesn't. It comes from within. It comes from the hand of God that placed it there before you were even formed and shaped fully in your mother's womb.

If you want to understand the true power and wonder that lies inside of you....don't look anywhere on the outside for the source. Tap into your true power and watch the whole world change. We can complain about the state of this world until we can no longer breathe....but it will never change until we do. There is wonder inside all of you. I hope you find it.

My Dream Life told in Rihanna Pictures...

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People love to ask questions like, "What would your dream job be?" or, "What would you rather be doing with your life" or even, "If you walk in your true purpose what would that look like?". I usually respond back with cute safe answers, but if I'm being honest, a day in the life of my true self would look something like this...

I would wake up, spend time of solitude with God, hear directly from him about what I need to do today and then have my makeup done by my team, something light, nothing crazy. I would put on my glam robe and sashay out into the luxurious hallways of my home.

I would wake up, spend time of solitude with God, hear directly from him about what I need to do today and then have my makeup done by my team, something light, nothing crazy. I would put on my glam robe and sashay out into the luxurious hallways of my home.

Feeling beautiful, bold, confident and powerful, I would walk happily into the thing that lights my heart on fire the most......fighting for the people.

Feeling beautiful, bold, confident and powerful, I would walk happily into the thing that lights my heart on fire the most......fighting for the people.

I would look down on this world that I am in charge of ruling. I would stand there and demand that workers are paid what they are worth, slaves and the oppressed are set free, that all businesses that lack passion and purpose and only serve to take advantage of the poor be shot---I mean, put out of business, that children are well fed and well educated, that everyone who needs health care gets the best and finest holistic care my world has to offer, all community organizations are funded to the max, that everyone has what they need and then criminals who rob, rape and murder senselessly will be shot....ok....just shot at (*insert eyeroll* God, you people keep silently judging me) I mean, in my world, good things are given out freely, there's no need to do shady sh*t to get them.

I would look down on this world that I am in charge of ruling. I would stand there and demand that workers are paid what they are worth, slaves and the oppressed are set free, that all businesses that lack passion and purpose and only serve to take advantage of the poor be shot---I mean, put out of business, that children are well fed and well educated, that everyone who needs health care gets the best and finest holistic care my world has to offer, all community organizations are funded to the max, that everyone has what they need and then criminals who rob, rape and murder senselessly will be shot....ok....just shot at (*insert eyeroll* God, you people keep silently judging me) I mean, in my world, good things are given out freely, there's no need to do shady sh*t to get them.

After a hard days work, and unlimited mimosas and my brunch buffet, I will look through my mail...no bills of course....just letters of appreciation from my people, roses, paintings, jewels and shoes.....I will listen to the best hip hop and inspirational talks out of my gold headphones during this time.

After a hard days work, and unlimited mimosas and my brunch buffet, I will look through my mail...no bills of course....just letters of appreciation from my people, roses, paintings, jewels and shoes.....I will listen to the best hip hop and inspirational talks out of my gold headphones during this time.

I will then go out and enjoy the beauty of my day. Cuddle with cute little kids and watch Disney movies, take a ride on my yacht, go swimming, drink cocktails in the Jacuzzi, spend time with family and friends (90s hip hop cookout! yesss!), have my people throw a day party or block party, invite people over to spend time in heaven on earth (my home), shop, maybe travel real quick, get a massage, go on a nice date, write a book maybe, or just relax. 

I will then go out and enjoy the beauty of my day. Cuddle with cute little kids and watch Disney movies, take a ride on my yacht, go swimming, drink cocktails in the Jacuzzi, spend time with family and friends (90s hip hop cookout! yesss!), have my people throw a day party or block party, invite people over to spend time in heaven on earth (my home), shop, maybe travel real quick, get a massage, go on a nice date, write a book maybe, or just relax. 

At the end of my day, at sunset, I will convene again with God to see what he has for me to say to the people. I will sit on my balcony in another fine robe and heels and I will meet one on one with people who have appointments and help them to navigate what their true purpose is and how to get there. I would show them that they have the same power that I have, that in their own way, they can fight for the people and change the world just like me.....then we will eat some hot wings.

At the end of my day, at sunset, I will convene again with God to see what he has for me to say to the people. I will sit on my balcony in another fine robe and heels and I will meet one on one with people who have appointments and help them to navigate what their true purpose is and how to get there. I would show them that they have the same power that I have, that in their own way, they can fight for the people and change the world just like me.....then we will eat some hot wings.

Now it is time to relax with the one I love and enjoy the rest of the night.....and sleep peacefully, not worried about the now and definitely not worried about what lies before me tomorrow. God is in complete control and he's leading me and guiding me. I sleep knowing that every day I am making this world a better place, living lavishly and being appreciated for all I do. By the way my home will smell like essential oils, fresh herbs and roses. Oh and the kitchen will always smell like soul food and other ethnic varieties. Oh and I aint fighting no other countries, we all gon use our own damn resources and work together to better us all. No competition...all unity. The only war will be against the tyrants and oppressors who just lie, destroy, manipulate, steal from and kill innocent people. Now those tyrants can be shot........at :) The end.

Now it is time to relax with the one I love and enjoy the rest of the night.....and sleep peacefully, not worried about the now and definitely not worried about what lies before me tomorrow. God is in complete control and he's leading me and guiding me. I sleep knowing that every day I am making this world a better place, living lavishly and being appreciated for all I do. By the way my home will smell like essential oils, fresh herbs and roses. Oh and the kitchen will always smell like soul food and other ethnic varieties. Oh and I aint fighting no other countries, we all gon use our own damn resources and work together to better us all. No competition...all unity. The only war will be against the tyrants and oppressors who just lie, destroy, manipulate, steal from and kill innocent people. Now those tyrants can be shot........at :) The end.


Now I know this seems extravagant but to me it doesn't. Maybe in heaven, my life will be something like this? Either way, we can walk around just like this daily. I can wake up to pray, do my own makeup (ugh not as glam, but ok), sashay out of my luxurious apartment and drive to work with confidence, while I'm at work I can fight relentlessly for the people as if I have that same power as in my vision, I can't shoot at people though. Then I can listen to music from my white apple headphones, still some quality music though, and no fan mail yet (dangit!). I may not have a fine robe or heels like that but I can spend some time at the end of the day with one on one life coaching, thennnnnn I can relax at home with the one I love, and my apartment does smell like essential oils! Its my reality, but the power of my true self, my inner vision, is what can fuel and drive you in your reality. So......who is your true self? That powerhouse inside you? Are you ready to be powered by her?

Meet 15-Year Old Trinity Simone

What a beautiful and powerful young activist! Not only is she talking the talk, she has created a booming, sucessful, dope, original and world changing business called Black Vibe Tribe. She has merged activism with fashion and is helping others to make a bold statement wherever they go and wherever they are in the world.

I want change. I want more for us and my business is just a starting point. Individuals that support my business will be those that are willing to make a statement. They will proudly showcase Black Vibe Tribe goodies and hopefully it will start a conversation.
— Trinity

This is not only impressive because of her age, but because of her heart. Trinity exemplifies Diva Demeanor. She has the heart of a soldier, not afraid to stand on the frontlines for what she believes. She flawlessly has created something magical that transcends money and fame but impacts communities all over. She is making a statement and calling for awareness and change. She is using all that she is, to educate, empower and enlist others to do the same. This girl is a gem. I hope that we all can be inspired by her and support her in all that she does. Big ups for being a light in the culture, doing it for the culture and showing this world that young girls and women are more than just sexual objects, more than bangin bodies, more than pretty faces, more than a chick for your video, more than your promo girl....but we are educated, royal, world changing, strong and powerful forces in our culture. Thank you Trinity.

To view and support what this DIVA has created, visit her official site here: Black Vibe Tribe You will want to purchase EVERYTHING on the site, I promise you! This is gear made specifically for world changers like YOU!

Not On My Watch

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It fires me up to see a person who noticed a problem in their world and instead of complaining or being discouraged by it, says "not on my watch", and does their part to create change, no matter how small. Women are born nurturers and creators. We have the power not only to create new life in the form of a child, but to create life where there was once just death and destruction and to create light and purpose where there was once darkness and corruption. Once we tap into our true power, we can see significant changes in the areas that matter to us the most.

Artist, Kei Landa began the Not on My Watch: Pray 4 Hip Hop movement. It is a beautiful thing to see people begin to openly discuss the heart of hip hop and what they would like to see in the culture. People are beginning to reflect on hip hop's origin, true purpose and its power in our world today. Kei Landa did not want to merely sit back and watch the culture be disrespected or not live up to its true potential. She did not want to sit back in her living room and complain to her friends or complain in people's comment section. No, she wanted to create true change. She believes in the power of prayer and is enlisting all hip hop lovers to join her in praying for artists, DJ's, producers, record execs, B-Boys & B-Girls, Grafitti writers, community leaders....everyone in the culture. 

What beauty, power and unity this brings to the culture! Thank you Kei for creating this movement, follow it at @prayforhiphop on instagram and the official website or even by joining her campaign by submitting a short 1 minute video on your prayer and vision for the hip hop culture! 

A quote of former Clipse rapper, No Malice's, contribution to her campaign

A quote of former Clipse rapper, No Malice's, contribution to her campaign

Don't Judge a Book by its Cover

When a video of her spinning classic 90's hip hop at a party with her outer appearance looking like "an old white lady going to the market" she went VIRAL! Her authenticity, her heart & deep love for the culture shone through and its undeniable! Read her thoughts and see the POWERFUL things she is doing for her community and for the culture! Diva Demeanor!!!!

When a video of her spinning classic 90's hip hop at a party with her outer appearance looking like "an old white lady going to the market" she went VIRAL! Her authenticity, her heart & deep love for the culture shone through and its undeniable! Read her thoughts and see the POWERFUL things she is doing for her community and for the culture! Diva Demeanor!!!!

How did you become a DJ?

DJ Misbehaviour: I was always into music from a very young age. I loved soul music and remember buying soul records at 9 years old. The first record I ever bought was Bernadette by The Four Tops, I played it all the time. When I was at college I made mix tapes for all the student parties and it kind of grew from there.

What is the story behind the Viral Video?

DJ Misbehaviour: I was deejaying at a party called ‘Uptown Bounce’ in New York. I was excited to be playing all my favorite 90’s Hip Hop Jams and as soon as I got on I knew the crowd and I were on the same page. I was playing all the greatest 90’s tunes of that time, Biggie, Tribe, Redman , Brand Nubian, Black Sheep and the atmosphere was amazing. A guy in the crowd, who I later found out was called Eleuterio Olmeda, was filming me and uploaded the footage to Facebook and it went viral

What has been the biggest surprise to people?

DJ Misbehaviour: The majority of comments are about a combination of my race and age. The way i was dressed that day, someone said I looked like I was off to the market to buy groceries, not smashing a party.

What has your journey been like as a Female DJ?

DJ Misbehaviour: It was quite tough at first as there were so few of us back in 1989. Some guys didn’t think women should be in the DJ Booth and were not nice about it at all. Some were really supportive and encouraging. Also if there were four guys on the bill and me, I stood out and people remembered me, so there were positives. One thing that used to annoy me, was asking promoters for work and getting the response “Yes we’ve been thinking of doing a women’s night “ There weren’t that many of us and these nights didn’t happen much and when they did we were thrown together by our gender, not experience or musical compatibility. I just wanted to DJ at cool spots with other cool like minded DJs whatever the gender. I never call or have called myself a female DJ or a woman DJ. I never hear men when asked what they do for a living reply ‘I’m a Male Dj’ why should we have to have our gender as a title?

I am not sure how much has really changed, when you look at the top tier of djs it’s nearly all men, although doors have opened up and more women have come through and there are some really really good female djs out there. I still think in many circles it is still eye candy over skills which is a shame. I mean cool if you look like a model you gonna get hired, but damn respect the craft and get some skills please.

What is next for you?

DJ Misbehaviour: The video has definitely raised my profile and my fans and followers have increased by thousands. I’ve been on Hot 97 and Sirius XM Shade 45 and have travelled to play in different cities in the last couple of months including Miami, Boston, Washington DC and London. Next year I plan to keep travelling and doing what I love, rocking parties and making people happy.

I want to continue building my after school DJ program, giving back to the community and inspiring young people. I also want to speak at more events about women’s empowerment especially in the music business. It is needed right now! It is a key topic and I have plenty to contribute to the conversation. I have a wealth of experiences over the last 30 years as a DJ, I have crossed many borders, overcome obstacles and I’m still here and I would love to continue sharing tips and insights with young people coming up.

 

original interview: here

Confessions of a Diva

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If my belief that no one hates me, because I give them zero reasons to, they just hate ON ME, makes me a Diva......then I'll take that. I will continue to effortlessly ignore the drama, lies, hate and shade and focus wholly on being a light, giving life, serving my community with what it needs and showing love even to those who don't deserve it.

If leaving dead end situations, declining dead end offers that minimize my worth and creating my own lane out of the pure vision God placed in my heart makes me a Diva......then I'll take that too. I will not allow the world to stifle my creativity and vision, I will not allow anyone to cram me into their box to be used and abused for their purposes, I will not live a mediocre life but I will create what I wish to see in this world and do it to the maximum.

If chilling in the midst of competition because I know that because I am COMPLETE, there is no competition, makes me a Diva....then I'll take that. People can try and copy what I do and who I am but they will never be able to copy my spirit. They can do the exact same business structure, steal every idea, imitate my decisions and words, imitate my lifestyle, recreate their physical look to imitate mine, buy the same car and the same house......but their underlying jealous spirit, manipulative spirit and evil spirit will constantly outweigh any good they feel that they are doing. You can fake a lot in this world, but you can never fake a pure heart and positive energy. If it doesn't come from within, it will never have the same impact.

If refusing to sell out makes me a Diva.....I'm sure as hell one! In this world, I realize that I am more than a pretty face, more than a body and more than a sexual act. I will not be reduced to these things by exploiting them or by sleeping with a man to get to where I need to be. If staying true to what I truly believe makes me a Diva, then I promise you, I'm the biggest Diva out here.

If speaking up for myself and not allowing people to discredit, demean or disrespect me and my vision makes me a Diva......guess I'm a Diva!

If not allowing people to have their way with me makes me a Diva......you guessed it.....I'm a Diva.

If fighting back, not with my words or my fists, but in action, purity and truth makes me a Diva....then that is who I am.

If relentlessly pursuing a higher purpose, making sure I stay aligned with my higher calling and inspiring others to do so makes me a Diva.....I will proudly wear that title.

If knowing exactly what I want, doing sh*t on my own, my own way and not stopping to ask for help, favors or handouts make me a Diva.....I will take that as the cherry on top.

A lot of things cause people to think or say that we are Divas.....but if these things make a woman a Diva, then whats the real problem? I will tat "Diva" on my fist and metaphorically punch you in the face with it unapologetically every single day. Diva has been known to have a negative connotation, but having the demeanor of a Diva is nothing but having the inner strength and the outer beauty and femininity to shape your life and change this world in miraculous ways. Shout out to all the Divas out there!

MYA: Taking no Sh*t and Doing it Her own way.

I was so inspired by this mini unsung story on Mya by Empressive. It tells of a beautiful story of triumph in the midst of what women deal with underneath the surface in the entertainment industry. This is a testament for any woman who deals with sexual harassment, who has had their image crushed by lies, who have been compared to others, who is being controlled and has had their creativity stifled by an organization or a job or life in general, and who knows what she wants and won't stop until she is there. Learn from how Mya handled herself, her career and ultimately her life. Her strength, her business sense, her grit and her passion are unmatched. It is also stated in the video how Mya has been called a "Diva" in a negative sense, after watching this you will see how her being a "Diva" was the purest and most powerful move she could make in this industry. Much love to Mya. Enjoy!

MOOD for Divas to have ALL 2018! Don't take their sh*t, create your own lane.

MOOD for Divas to have ALL 2018! Don't take their sh*t, create your own lane.

7 Attitudes Girls Need to Adopt

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1. "That's not my problem."
When I was in middle school, my dad took me to Game Stop, in the middle of my browsing, he abruptly storms out of the store and gets into his car. Perplexed, I go out to the car to find out that he was upset with me and that I was in trouble....again. But this time, I didn't even know what I had done wrong. Apparently, while we were in the store, some older boys were "checking me out", which upset my dad. So, instead of confronting the older boys checking out a little girl, who were indeed the problem, he confronted me and made me believe that I was the problem. He said there must be something about me that made them want to look at me in that manner, there must have been something I was wearing, or doing to make them do that. From then on there was instance after instance where I was made to believe that I was the problem when I really wasn't. Relate? In churches everywhere girls are told to change the way that they dress or else they will "cause their brothers to stumble." Oh, so WE are the reason why these boys have no self control??? Female Christian Hip Hop artist, Hillary Jane, had a beautiful opportunity to headline a tour with the times popular male CHH artists but she was taken off the tour because, "There will be late nights on tour together, and lot's of time spent between the sexes, oh and we don't want any assumptions or anything to really happen." So she has to miss out on her big moment and her break because you don't think the guys can handle it? Why is she considered the problem? Women have the tendency to take on other people's pain, insecurities and problems and live life as if THEY are the problem. We end up blaming ourselves, even in situations such as rape. We must begin to say "that's not my problem", and separate ourselves from the problems of others and understand that their issues are not our own and refuse to own them.

2. "That's not my name"
I would criiiiiiinge when someone would call me "sis" when they didn't even know me like that nor mean it. A girl talking behind your back but in church saying, "hey sis!" to the guy that only sees you as a prospect, not a human being and literally just wants to f*ck but when he addresses you he says, "hey sis, wussup." That's not my name. You don't mean it, therefore its fake, that makes me uncomfortable, just call me by my name. We need to understand that it is not "rude" to want to be addressed a certain way. Maybe you hate when your boss calls you "sweetie" or when that random man calls you "aye" lol. It is ok to correct whoever is speaking and refuse to be addressed as something that makes you uncomfortable or doesn't match who you truly are to them. So the next time someone calls you "baby" and they aint cha man....its ok to let them know, "that's not my name"...at least to you it isn't.

3. "I'm leaving."
This one is simple. I've found myself in TOO MANY bad situations because I ignored my gut feeling (the Holy Spirit) telling me that something aint right. No matter how nice the person seems or how perfect and calm the situation may be at the moment, if you feel in your gut that  something aint right, its ok to get out of that situation. No matter who calls you crazy or looks at you crazy, we gotta love ourselves enough to trust our instincts. Next time you don't like what's going on....it's ok to just leave.....I promise.

4. "No."
I can't even count on my hands how many times I've allowed someone to emotionally bully me into agreeing to do something that I didn't want to do. I was scared to say no in fear of their reaction, the end of a friendship or whatever the illogical fear in my head was. Girls need to learn to say no without fear, mean it and follow through with it. We need to understand that we have the power to disallow something in our life, even when we feel powerless. Next time you want to say no, actually say it, mean it from the depths of your soul, really mean it and stand by it. "No" doesn't mean convince me, nor does it mean keep trying or maybe later if you keep annoying me or until you scream at me and scare me into complying, no simply means.....no. & ITS OKAY TO SAY IT.

5. "I'll build my own door."
I would love for more girls to adopt this logic. If you keep knocking at an opportunity and getting ignored, disrespected, not taken seriously or whatever.....get the creativity and the strength to build your own damn door. Create your own opportunity, create your own lane. If someone won't help you or do it for you....it's ok and it is possible to do it yourself. I love how Blimes Brixton launched Peach House Records, a sort of safe haven for female recording artists or how Snow Tha Product began her career by making and sending her own merch, creating her music herself, releasing it herself, going on tour by herself, creating her own platform herself, promoting herself etc. More women should stop waiting on opportunities and begin creating them. We are creators by nature. Don't waste your energy beating someone else's door down. Save your energy and use it to build your own door with that same relentlessness and passion.

6. "I'm worth more than that....keep going."
Selling things online has almost ruined how we view value. Have you ever set a price on something you want to sell but then you see the "market value" is lower so you need to lower your price in order to sell it...oh and when you finally get a potential buyer and they try to get you to sell it cheaper and you're so scared to lose out on that buyer because omg what if no one else wants it, what if no one else is interested, ok I'll just sell it to them. Women need to stop doing this....in REAL life. If we truly know our worth, our value and what we deserve, then why are we so quick to sell ourselves short or negotiate a deal in fear that they won't see the value that we do? In relationships, business deals or work salaries....we constantly just take what we can get. We know that we deserve more but inside we don't feel worthy or that it is possible. Yeah, girls need to stop that.

7. "If I gotta be a b*tch imma be a bad one."
As Kehlani so eloquently put it! To sum everything up, girls historically have been told to be non confrontational, sweet, nice, easy going even at the expense of their own safety, happiness or beliefs. Out of fear of being labeled a b*tch, we have silenced our thoughts and feelings, gone along with things we don't feel comfortable with, stayed at dead end jobs, accepted offers we should have refused etc etc etc.... No matter what, someone is going to eventually view you as a b*tch if you're trying to make any significant impact in this world. Accept it and just make sure you're a bad one, standing for what you believe in, doing good wherever you go and leading this next generation of girls into power and not further into silence, shame or bondage.